Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys - Silicon Valley Men's Center

Books , Articles and Videos For Men:

- Man Enough
Justin Baldoni
Undefining my Masculinity

-The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold, and Brave
by Ted Bunch, and Anna Marie Johnson Teague
This collection of 100 original dares will help boys expand their worldview, inspire more respect toward girls and non-binary kids, and generally develop a healthier idea of manhood.

-The Importance of Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys, with Raelene S. Weaver and Vanessa Love
www.youtube.com/watch?v=OuKe9YCjNnQ

The Importance of Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys 9-25-18 and 9-21-19
https://www.pampclub.org/content.aspx?page_id=5&club_id=231772&item_id=48816&action=view&al=y&actr=3

-1in6.org
At least 1 In 6 Men Have Been Sexually Abused
1in6.org

-Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men:
The Trauma of Sexual Abuse
Richard B. Gartner

-Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys: Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma
Richard B.Gartner

-Abused Boys.  The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
Abused boys is a book that helps survivors find the hope and strength to recover and to lead fulfilled adult lives.

-His History, Her Story: A Survival Guide for Spouses of Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trama
The first book to explore the impact of male childhood sexual abuse on adult relationships
Debra Warner

-The Velvet Rage:  Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man's World
Alan Downs, Ph.D.
The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past.  Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men.

-Becoming A Happier Man: A Man’s Guide To Living A Full And Meaningful Life
Edward M. Adams

-Reinventing Masculinity
Edward M. Adams and Ed Frauenheim
This book describes moving from an outdated, restrictive view of masculinity to one of compassion, connection and emotional well-being.

-How to Raise a Boy
Michael C, Reichert, PhD
Dr. Reichert explains how the paradigms about boys needing to be stoic and "man like" can actually cause them to shut down, leading to anger, isolation, and disrespectful or even destructive behaviors.

Cracking the Boy Code
Adam Cox
-How to understand and talk with boys

-The Future of Men
Jack Myers
The Future of Men provides tools to help men, and especially younger men, recognize and embrace new behaviors that are required for health and happiness at work, at home, and in their relationships.

-Boys
What it Means to Become a Man
Rachel Giese
This book looks at how girls have benefited from redefining femininity, and the need to do the same for boys by redefining masculinity today.

-No More Mr. Nice Guy
Dr. Robert Glover
Focus is on codependency and how to meet one’s needs and build self-confidence

-Inside Out: Becoming My Own Man
Jed Diamond

-Married Men Coming Out! The Ultimate Guide To Becoming the Man You Were Born To Be
David Christel
Support for married men coming out and how to communicate within families and anticipate challenges at work and in society in general

-Iron John
Robert Bly

-Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
Sam Keen
Redefining masculinity to include a focus on building nurturing, satisfying relationships with one another, their mates, and their families.

-Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman
Understanding one's own emotions can help develop empathy for others

-Working With Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Coleman
How to create an emotionally intelligent organization

-For Couples
Loving With The Brain in Mind
Daniel J. Siegel and Mona DeKoven Fishbane

-Dr. Adam Dorsay
TEDx Talk
Emotions: The Data Men Miss
www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqDCnOmyA88

-New York Times article: How To Raise a Feminist Son (I prefer the title to be: How To Raise Emotionally Healthy boys”
By Claire Cain Miller and Illustrations by Agnes Lee
A blueprint for how to raise competent, caring, and confident boys with high emotional intelligence
www.nytimes.com/2017/06/02/upshot/how-to-raise-a-feminist-son.html

-Stress Relief for Men: How To Use the Revolutionary Tools of Energy and Healing to Live Well by Jed Diamond, Ph.D

-From Madness to Manhood: Healing the Father Wound You Never Knew You Had by Jed Diamond, Ph.D

-Healing from Hate
Michael Kimmel
How Young Men Get Into and Out of Violent Extremism

Mental Health Workbook for Men
David Kalili
Exercises to Improve Your Emotional, Psychological, and Social Well-Being


For Boys:

Let Boys Be Kids First
Raelene S. Weaver
Helping boys to be who they are and feel what they feel

Boys Will Be Human
Justin Baldoni
A Get-Real Gut-Check Guide to Becoming the Strongest, Kindest,
Bravest Person You Can Be

The Children's Book:  The Boy Who Never Gave Up
Stephen Curry
Against all odds, this small boy who follows his dream, not only makes it to the NBA, but becomes one of the greatest players to ever play the game of basketball.

I Have a Superpower
Stephen Curry
So long as you have heart, any goal is achievable through hard work and determination—even without a cape!


For Teens:

Talk with Zach
https://talkwithzachofficial.com
~Topics range from breakups to college pressure, racism to gender, dealing with parents to dealing with social media.

-Real Boys Voices
Dr. William Pollack
Now, in Real Boys' Voices, Pollack lets us hear what boys today are saying, even as he explores ways to get them to talk more openly with us.

-Raising Cain
Dan Kindlon, Ph.D., and Michael Thompson, Ph.D.
Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

-Sex Positive Talks to Have With Kids
Pintor Carnagey
The bestselling guide to creating an open, shame-free connection with the young people in your world.

-The Strong Sensitive Boy
Ted Zeff, Ph.D.
Insights for parents of highly sensitive boys to help them thrive

-Sex and Dating for Teen Boys
Andrew P. Smiler, PhD
A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy

-Boys Adrift
Leonard Sax, MD, PhD
The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.

-Ten Conversations You Need to Have With Your Son
Dr. Tim Hawkes
“Most useful book I have read for Dads who need to find a way to express their desire and vision for their son's life.”

-How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk
Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
For many parents, when a kid enters the teen years it can feel like an alien took over. Here's how to talk so your kid will LISTEN.

-Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men: The Trauma of Sexual Abuse
Richard B. Gartner

-Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys: Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma
Richard B.Gartner

-Abused Boys.  The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
Abused boys is a book that helps survivors find the hope and strength to recover and to lead fulfilled adult lives.

-Masterminds and Wingmen
Boys have deep emotional lives
Rosalind Wiseman

-The Masculine Self
Andrew P. Smiler and Christopher Kilmartin
Men's Studies Text

-The Crisis of Connection:  Roots, Consequences, and Solutions
by Dr. Niobe Way
About overcoming isolation and building relationships for urban boys of color

-Deep Secrets:  Boys' Friendships and the Crisis of Connection
by Dr. Niobe Way
About overcoming isolation and building relationships for urban boys of color

Books for teens on emotional intelligence:

-Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
by John Gottman
Gottman's groundbreaking guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world

-The Learner's Toolkit (For teens, parents, and teachers as school curricula)
by Jackie Beere
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Instilling Values
Creating Independent Learners

-The Student EQ Edge
by Stein, Book, and Kanoy
Filled with practical exercises for developing your Emotional Intelligence

-Success For Teens
by John Fleming
The success principles for teens: How to get from where you are to where you want to be

-7 Habits for Highly Effective Teens
by Sean Covey
Improve self-image
Build friendships
How to handle cyberbullying, etc.